Well, I spoke too soon I guess.

Today the hubby and I had a fight about finances. I know he's scared about money, and worried about being the sole provider (I'm not working right now-lost job- so I'm staying home with our toddler).

But today I demanded respect as his wife and his partner. When I make mistakes, get angry about the mistakes, sure. But don't belittle me or make me feel stupid for not having done things the way he would have.

For the first time in nearly 5 years, I was thisclose to walking out of the marriage. Because I'm 30 years old. Intelligent, well-read, witty, politically aware, and I don't deserve to be made to feel stupid. I told him that if his respect and admiration for me was conditional on the weather, his moods, or things not going his way, than I didn't need it. That I deserved better.

For the first time in eons, hubby called me today. To apologize for his behavior. He realized how wrong he was.

We have a lot of work to do. But stepping so close to the marital abyss scared us both, I think.